KarMel Scholarship 2007

 

 “Talk About It”

By Ralph Yamall-Rodland

 

 

Desciption of Submission: Speech designed to be presented to the national HRC audience during their 2006 National Coming Out Day Celebration

 

 

 

Welcome to the 2006 National Coming Out Day festivities!!  As I look out at the enormous turnout we have today, my ongoing enthusiasm for our purpose is validated and enriched each and every year we gather to celebrate this momentous day.  Our attempts to promote awareness and acceptance of lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgender individuals around the world reach more and more people every year.  Homosexuals and heterosexuals alike join together to profess to the multitudes why equal rights for all people is so important.

 

 

Dr. Jean O’Leary and Dr. Robert Eichberg founded National Coming Out Day back in 1988 as a celebration of the Second National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights.  On that day in 1987, half a million people marched on Washington, DC for gay and lesbian equality. 

 

 

Jean O’Leary faced remarkable obstacles by leaving the convent in 1970 and founding the Lesbian Feminist Liberation.  Many today will be doing something for the first time, sharing their sexual orientation with friends, family members, or possibly complete strangers.  Dr. O’Leary also completed many firsts in her time.  She arranged the first meeting of gay rights activities at the White House under Jimmy Carter in 1977.  She was the first openly gay person appointed to a presidential commission which would include gay and lesbian rights in the national conversation.  She was the first openly lesbian delegate to a national political convention, attending the Democratic convention in 1976 and served on the Democratic National Committee for 12 years, 8 of those on the Executive Committee, which was another first.  Both Dr. Eichberg and Dr. O’Leary have given their lives in pursuit of equality, for which we would not be able to enjoy this celebration today.

 

 

Our theme this year, Talk About It, asks the GLBT community and our allies to use October 11 to provide a safe haven for those among us forced to live in secrecy, while asking those GLBT individuals who have made the brave decision to come out, to use this day to talk about our orientation in as many public settings as possible.  In addition, we welcome and thank all of our heterosexual supporters for helping us to open dialogues amongst all members of society who may not have friends or family members who identify with our orientation.

 

 

Our group must always deal with a most unknown dichotomy—those among us who are forced to live in secrecy and fear, and those who are able to celebrate our sexual orientation openly and wholeheartedly.  Despite the numerous attempts by right-wing extremist groups to silence our existence, more and more GLBT individuals are able to come out and proclaim their sexuality with pride. 

 

 

This day of celebration enables a common unifying event where we not only encourage those among us who fear uncertainty about their public perception to embrace public disclosure, yet also educate every American about the diverse group of individuals who find themselves identifying with our orientation.

 

 

We were able to distribute hundreds of thousands of kits to enable individuals and groups to help open a healthy dialogue to unlock people’s hearts and minds ushering in fairness for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.

 

 

Coretta Scott King has said, “I still hear people say that I should not be talking about the rights of lesbian and gay people.  But I hasten to remind them that Martin Luther King, Jr. said, ‘Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.’”

 

We at the Human Rights Campaign have heard stories over the years and have come to the conclusion that “coming out” is a process, not an event.  More accurately, it is a series of events, with successive degrees of openness and honesty.  In early workshops, we taught that coming out is an act of love; that the greatest act of love possible, is simply to tell the truth about your experiences - all of them.  We often fear that telling the truth about ourselves will hurt others.  Ironically, the reality is that we hurt others by our secrecy and denial. We harm ourselves even more, when we allow our fears to keep our closet doors nailed shut. Our personal and community obligation is to come out and take pride in our courage and own uniqueness.

 

When we released our promotional materials this year, we included some of my favorite statements about this important occasion and what it all means.  “Being brave doesn’t mean that you’re not scared.  It means that you’re scared, and that you do the thing that you’re afraid of anyway.  Coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or as a straight-supportive person is an act of bravery, authenticity and openness.  Whether it’s for the first time ever, of for the first time today—coming out is the most important thing you will do all day.

 

 

Whether you’re gay or straight, out or not, displaying a sticker, hosting a booth, shopping at gay-friendly stores, donating to the cause, or starting dialogues among your family and friends, we all join together today to ensure equality for all people is at the forefront of this great nation.  I hope each and every one of you will use this day as a powerful beginning to continue the conversation every day.  TALK ABOUT IT always and often.  Every word is a step in the right direction!

 

 

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