KarMel Scholarship 2007

 

 “Gay’s Rights, I Mean..Rights?”

By Nicole Tallon

 

 

Desciption of Submission: A view from both sides of the gay issue in America

 

 

Same sex marriage is an ongoing controversy in the contemporary world.  Only a couple countries in the world have given homosexual couples the same rights as heterosexual couples.  Here in the United States we cannot seem decide on how to deal with the issues. Some people in America want marriage to be defined as a man and woman, and they have the president backing them.  Linda Harvey made the argument against same sex marriage; that it will be passed down to children through the school system. The people against homosexual marriage in the United States also believe that if a child has homosexual parents then it will also be exposed to a harmful environment. Gay and Lesbian advocates believe that it is their right as Americans to decide who they want to marry, no matter the gender, and to have the same privileges to children because the bond of their marriage should be viewed as equal to a heterosexual relationship.

The most common arguments made are that marriage should be defined as a man and a woman, that homosexual relationships are immoral and wrong.  Peter Sprigg, Vice President for Policy at the Family Research Council, claims that “homosexual relationships cannot be [considered] marriage. That is, they simply do not fit the minimum necessary condition[s] for a marriage to exist--namely, the union of a man and a woman.”  He believes that marriage should not be open to people who just love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together.  He pushes the question of, “How far are we willing to go if love could just define a marriage.”   He thinks that, “If love and companionship were sufficient to define marriage, then there would be no reason to deny "marriage" to unions of a child and an adult, or an adult child and his or her aging parent, or to roommates who have no sexual relationship, or to groups rather than couples.”  If the sexual part was added to a relationship, he thinks it is closer to being a marriage but is still not sufficient to define marriage. He gets deeper in his argument on, “what is marriage?” and says that bearing children or having the option to bear children should define marriage.”  He used a quote from Anthropologist Kingsley Davis, which stated, "The unique trait of what is commonly called marriage is social recognition and approval ... of a couple's engaging in sexual intercourse, bearing and rearing children."  Sprigg believes that marriage needs to have children in order to keep the world moving.  He uses another quote in his argument and uses Canadian scholar Margaret A. Somerville and says, "Through marriage, our society marks out the relationship of two people who will together transmit human life to the next generation and nurture and protect that life."    Sprigg thinks the only reason to marry is to bear children and even if a heterosexual couple does not bear children, they are still capable to do so.  He says it is an invasion of their privacy to ask them if they plan on bearing children and homosexual couples should not have the same rights because we do not have to invade their privacy to know they cannot naturally bear children.  His main reason for that is, “There is no reason, though, to extend "marriage" to same-sex couples, which are of a structural type (two men or two women) that is incapable--ever, under any circumstances, regardless of age, health, or intent--of producing babies naturally. In fact, they are incapable of even engaging in the type of sexual act that results in natural reproduction (Sprigg).”                   (Peter Sprigg)

Marten van Mourik, a law professor at the Catholic University of Nijmegen backs the arguments Sprigg made by saying, “You don't change an institution with such a long history from one day to the next just to satisfy the whim of one group of people … Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman intended to produce children. You can't get around that (Sterling).”

Sprigg said that marriage was around before the law and the constitution so therefore marriage is something that should not be defined by legal standards.  Sprigg claims, “At its heart, it is an anthropological and sociological reality, not a legal one. Laws relating to marriage merely recognize and regulate an institution that already exists.” 

President Bush supports banning gay marriage and agrees with Peter Sprigg by saying, “I believe marriage is between a man and a woman, and I think we ought to codify that one way or another,” and saying, “Marriage cannot be severed from its cultural, religious and natural roots without weakening the good influence of society.” Bush thinks that if gay marriage was allowed then it would be detrimental to society and affect it negatively forever.  Back in 2004 he said "If we are to prevent the meaning of marriage from changing forever we must pass a constitutional amendment.”  He is not against same sex couples having a relationship; he is against them getting the same rights as heterosexual couples.  Therefore, even though he backs an amendment banning gay marriage, he supports that states should be allowed to make laws that recognize other types of relationships.                                                                              (Peter Brownfeld)

            Some people against same sex marriage are worried that if same sex marriage is allowed then children will believe that same sex couples are the same as heterosexual couples.  Schools have started adding sexual orientation as a part of their non-discrimination laws.  They think that gay activists will bring their views into the school and put them into their curriculum.  Linda Harvey, president of Mission America, believes that “Among those changes will be "diverse" textbooks that include same-sex couples as role models, even for little children.  To refuse such content will be considered ‘discrimination’." Harvey predicts homosexual teachers will wear their wedding rings at school, talk about their spouses to the children, and even introduce their spouse to the children.  Then elementary school kids will come home from school believing that it is normal if they do the same when they get older.  “Standing up for equality in America will translate into the freedom to practice homosexuality for every student who "discovers" such inclinations,” Harvey exclaims.  She speculates that legalizing same sex marriage will also affect sex education classes. In “World Net Daily” she wrote:

“Every student will be taught that, of course, abstinence until heterosexual or homosexual marriage is fine if that's one's choice. But since pregnancy isn't a danger for homosexuals, sex can be a wonderful option for younger and younger people – as long as it's carried out "responsibly," of course – like brushing one's teeth.”

Harvey also predicts that young adult novels containing homosexual relationships will be put in public libraries.  Then the books will be put on required reading lists for the children and the children will have to do a book report on it.  Harvey warns the parents about these books and claims, “Your 13-year-old Kyle will be required to read and give a book report on a novel where Bruce and Jason meet, date and get married. What won't be covered is how Bruce and Jason split up a year later after cheating on each other dozens of times.”                                                                                                       (Linda Harvey)

            With all of the arguments made against same sex marriages put aside, Gay and Lesbian rights activists strongly believe that if an American wants to have a same sex marriage, it is a constitutional right.  They strongly advocate that “there is no constitutional basis for denying gay couples marriage, and every constitutional reason why our government should actively pursue legalizing gay marriage in order to give gay men and lesbians their rights as equal citizens of the United States and to ensure their inalienable right to the pursuit of happiness that every American is guaranteed.  Our government's purpose is to defend the rights of the people and in this instance our government has undoubtedly failed in its duties” (Moore).  They are not satisfied with merely a civil union because they believe it does not constitute a marriage.   Defenders of same sex marriage correlate this issue with interracial marriage, which used to be banned in America until the 1960’s.   When interracial marriage was banned, a black and white couple was looked on as perverted but the courts still defeneded their rights and that is the argument that same sex marriage supporters use. Leah Moore, a student at Mary Washington College in Virginia, in her essay on the defense of same sex marriage, quoted Hannah Arendt, a journalist and intellectual of the ‘50’s and ‘60’s as he wrote about interracial marriage:

“Why civil union isn't marriage,” (2) argued against the miscegenation laws, saying, “The right to marry whoever one wishes is an elementary human right compared to which the right to attend an integrated school, the right to sit where one pleases on a bus, the right to go into any hotel or recreation area or place of amusement, regardless of one's skin or color or race are minor indeed. Even political rights, like the right to vote, and nearly all other rights enumerated in the Constitution are secondary to the inalienable human rights to `life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness' ... and to this category the right to home and marriage unquestionably belongs.”               

In Leah’s extensive research on the defense of gay marriage, she also used Sullivan, senior editor at the New Republic, as he said, “Would any heterosexual in America believe he had a right to pursue happiness if he could not marry the person he loved? What would be more objectionable to most people — to be denied a vote in the next presidential election or to no longer have legal custody over their child or legal attachment to their wife or husband? Not a close call.”  Gay activists also believe that keeping same sex marriage illegal violates the Due Process Clause of the Fifth Amendment.  “According to the American Civil Liberties Union in 1996, (3) “The law [against same-sex marriage] discriminates on the basis of sex because it makes one's ability to marry depends on one's gender.” The ACLU goes on to say, “Classifications which discriminate on the basis of gender must be substantially related to some important government purpose…tradition by itself is not an important government purpose.  If it were, sex discrimination would be quite permissible; discrimination against women has a pedigree in tradition at least as long and time honored as that of discrimination against same-sex couples in marriage (Moore).”                                                         (Leah Moore)                                        

            Peter Sprigg made an argument against same sex marriage claiming that marriage is defined as bearing children.  Defenders of same sex marriage counter his argument by saying:

"Consider this.  If there is a necessary link between marriage and procreation, strange consequences would follow.  A state could and, to be consistent, should prohibit marriage in which one or both partners are sterile or impotent.  If procreation is the essential goal of marriage, why should postmenopausal women be allowed to marry?  Surely, discrimination against sterile, impotent, or aged couples would be unacceptable to citizens of many different perspectives.  The rationale would be that marriage serves functions that are as important as, if not more important than, procreation, including interpersonal commitment, religious or moral expression, sexual satisfaction, and the legal entitlements associated with spouse hood.  If elderly, sterile, or impotent couples cannot be denied the right to marry because of a traditional link between marriage and procreation, neither can lesbian or gay couples be denied the right for that type of reason (Moore 4).”       

 

Gay and Lesbian right’s advocates always get the argument handed to them that children coming from gay couples are harmed by their environment.  Leah Moore claims that there has never been any evidence supporting that whether the child was biological or adopoted.  She used a quote from, T. Richard Sullivan, PhD affiliated with the School of Social Work, University of British Columbia, and Albert Baques, social worker with the B.C. Ministry for Children and Families,  and he argued, “The assumption that a gay and lesbian orientation is anathema to child rearing reflects homophobia and the idealization of a particular family structure that is assumed to be morally superior…[In fact though, research shows that] no differences in well-being and normative functioning have been found between children reared by heterosexuals and those raised by lesbian or gay parents.  “The fear that children raised by homosexuals will grow up to be lesbian or gay suggests that it would be awful if that were the case.  In order to prove that they are worthy parents, lesbians and gay men have had to prove that they are not likely to raise children who will grow up to be like them  (Benkov).”   Despite the fact that twelve different samples including  studies of over 300 offspring of gay or lesbian parents have indicated no evidence of significant disturbances in the development of sexual identity (Moore 8).

The fight for homosexual rights is similar to the struggle for women’s rights and the approval of interracial marriage. Through history these groups recognized a flaw in the constitution and presented the issue to the government, but both issues were never solved without persistence and a rigorous battle. The issue I have with the government in illegalizing gay marriage is like of the argument on women’s rights and interracial marriage, the legalization of gay marriage is supported by the Due Process Clause of the Fifth Amendment because not allowing a same-sex couple the right to marriage is discrimination of gender.

Gay and Lesbian Americans are being forced to continue living normally in a nation where the majority believes their way of life is wrong. These homosexuals have to watch their rights, dignity, and happiness be taken from them just because they happen to believe differently. The government says, ‘it is against what this country was founded on,’ which does not successfully support their wish to ban gay marriage because this country was founded by one group with one religion and for the argument made to be solid this entire nation would have to practice the same faith and belief system. In the first amendment, freedom of religion is clearly stated; that every American has rights to their own beliefs. If, by law, every American has a right to believe what they want and practice what they wish than how can a law be made against a group of people just because they believe a certain way? How can the government continue to deny the contradictions their arguments are blatantly making? Somewhere along America’s quest for ‘the pursuit of happiness’ there was an accusation made against people simply because they were homosexual. The majority of America stood by our government when they placed a haunting label on homosexuals, as they placed a haunting label on me.

I agree with Sprigg, that you cannot make a change for just one group of people, but in the same respect a law should not be able to be made based on what one group of people believe. I do not want a change in the Constitution; all I want is the Constitution to be followed. The nation that advertises each individual’s right to life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness is the same nation that is taking all of those things from me. I am an American and I should have the same rights no matter my sexual orientation. Gay marriage is an issue that has been handled wrongfully and misconstrued. By the lack of support for gay marriage, our government has changed the view on homosexuals. Instead of being looked at as people with needs and feelings, we are simply looked upon as gay.

 

 

Bibliography

Bush, George.  “President Calls for Constitutional Amendment Protecting Marriage” 

            July. 2006.

            < http://www.whitehouse.gov/sitemap.html>

Harvey, Linda.  What homosexual 'marriage' will mean to America's children.”  World         

            Net Daily.  2003.

< http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=33660>

Moore, Leah. “Points In Defense of Gay Marriage.”  Mary Washington College.           

            Virginia, USA. 2001.

<http://www.angelfire.com/home/leah/>

Sprigg, Peter. “Questions and Answers: What's Wrong With Letting Same-Sex Couples                

‘Marry?’” Family Research Council.   Washington, D.C. 2006

<http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=if03h01>

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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