KarMel Scholarship 2005
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“The Institution of Marriage” By
Joshua Druce |
Desciption of Submission: “In favor of allowing the homosexual
community the same rights given to those that happen to be heterosexual.” - Joshua
I fail to understand how anyone can
homosexual marriage is a threat to the institution of marriage. There are people who become incredibly
passionate about stopping gays from marrying each other. But I don’t see what they’re fighting so hard
to protect. We’re living in a country
where half of all couples that get married to day will get divorced. Homosexual couples have to contend with the
negative popular opinions of the public, and still survive without the legal
benefits that heterosexual counterparts enjoy.
I know straight couples that have gotten divorced over less. And in my life there are numerous examples of
heterosexual couples fighting with in their marriage or fighting to get the
hell out of their marriage. I think
having anyone; even if you do disagree with their preference in partners,
protest, in public, to be able to get married is just going to strengthen this
struggling institution.
I’m not gay, and I
personally don’t understand how someone could be attracted to another guy, but
I like that. It is refreshing to see
something that the experts on the 24 hours news cycle can’t dissect and explain
away. From where I sit it looks like the
average person usually takes the path of least resistance. In a world that makes being
homosexual so difficult why then would someone choose to be gay? There doesn’t seem to be a biological reason,
or a psychological defect. I don’t
believe that homosexuals are amoral, especially when compared to the infidelity
and infighting that occurs with in the heterosexual community. The only reason that I can offer is that gays
and lesbians do really love each other, and I feel like I would be lucky to be
able to experience the depth of love that many homosexual couples experience.
I dated a girl who I was genuinely in love
with. We moved in together and made
plans for our future that included kids, careers and even furniture. But it became clear to both of us that
something was missing. The more we tried
to make things work, the more problems we had.
We could not force things to work between us. Eventually it became apparent to us both that
we would have to go our separate ways.
Julie is now living with her new partner Lisa. It would be easy for me to be hurt and bitter
and for a long time I was. But when I
see that Julie is finally happy, and that she doesn’t have to force anything I
know that her current situation is right for her. For reasons beyond my explanation they love
each other. And it is such a deep and
satisfying love that it is really reassuring.
I’m happy for them both, I’m glad that Lisa can
be to Julie what I never could.
I am not gay, but I have an easier time
understanding how someone could marry someone else of their own gender, then
being afraid of people that do. I like
the idea that there are still people out there that are willing to fight for
what they believe is right. It gives me
hope and inspiration to know that there are still people out there with
integrity and courage. I refuse to be
afraid of something just because I don’t understand it.
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